After months of planning, dreaming and waiting for the big day to arrive, a toast to your mate is the perfect way to celebrate the occasion. If you aren’t sure how the bride and groom toasts are supposed to go (or even if you should have one!) these tips can help you out.

What If I’m Too Nervous?

If either the bride or groom are too nervous to speak, there’s no reason you must have a toast to each other. However, if you can stomach the thought of speaking for a few minutes, a toast to the person you just pledged your life too is a great way to celebrate your union!

How Do I Make It Easier?

If you aren’t a fan of public speaking but still want to go ahead with a toast, practice breathing deeply to help calm your nerves. It’s the oldest trick in the book, but trust me – it works! Also, keep in mind that you are speaking in front of your groom or bride, friends and family – these people already love you, so anything you say will sound sweet to them!

What Do I Say?

Whatever you end up saying, make it short and sweet. Make sure you thank everyone who came to witness your special day, and say something sweet to your new wife or husband. As long as the toast includes everyone and doesn’t sound raunchy or full of inside jokes that only a handful of people understand, you’ll be good to go!

If you and your husband or wife plan to toast one another at your wedding, these tips should help you make the most of such a momentous occasion.