If you and your intended already have everything you need (and don’t relish the idea of getting another toaster or bath towel!) you might wonder if it’s appropriate to ask for money instead of traditional wedding gifts.

First of all, it isn’t polite to ask for specific gifts from anyone who will be attending your wedding. If a guest asks you what you would like to receive, then you can say you would prefer monetary gifts. You can also let your close family, friends and even the bridal party about your preferences, so if anyone asks them what you would like to receive, they can pass the information along with you making YOU look rude!

Keep in mind, however, that not everyone will want to give you money. There are some people who will still want to buy you actual gifts, so it’s a good idea to register for a few items you like and would enjoy having. Use this as an excuse to register for things you would never dream of buying for yourself but have always wanted to own – you just might be surprised.

The bottom line: Even if you do receive monetary gifts, a thank you note is still important. To really personalize your thank you notes, write a few lines about what you plan to do with the money. This way, every gift giver feels appreciated (whether they gave you money or boxed wedding gifts.)

Do you think it’s appropriate to ask for money instead of normal wedding gifts?