What happens when you’ve found The One, but your parents dissaprove? Before you break those family ties forever, there are things you can do before it’s too late.

1. What’s Bugging Them?

First, sit down with your parents and discuss what it is about your partner that has your parents so upset. It could all be a misunderstanding! Open communication right up front is key to fixing this situation. Simply reiterate how much you love your soon-to-be wife or husband, and explain how much you’ll appreciate their acceptance and understanding.

2. Evaluate Your Feelings

If you had a whirlwind courtship and the engagement happened pretty quickly, your parents may dissaprove because they aren’t sure you’re truly thinking with your head. In any case, it’s important to really do some soul searching to figure out if your feelings are true. Love can often blind us to our partner’s faults, both big AND small.

3. Reassure Them

Once you’re married, you’re not going to be able to spend as much time with your family as you once did. Now, holidays and family gatherings are going to be divided between you and your intended’s family, so it’s important to reassure YOUR parents that they are still a vital part of your life. They may feel jealous or insecure, so make it a point to shower them with affection and understanding.

4. Don’t Freak Out

While your parents may say things about your mate that are mean or hurtful, it’s important to keep a cool head. Adding fuel to the fire with rude words of your own will only make the situation worse! Wait until they calm down, and then discuss what brought on the tirade. You may be able to get them to see reason, but only if you stay calm.

If your parents hate your mate, it can be understandably difficult. However, failing to discuss these issues with your parents BEFORE the wedding can spell disaster. Communicate with your family before it drags on too long, and you just may be able to keep the peace AND your bride or groom to be!