My friend is a wonderful girl, but when she got married, some serious control issues really came out. Her husband had strong opinions about what the bridesmaids wore. It was unusual for a groom, but for some reason, he did not want them to wear red. My friend didn’t really want red, but wanted him to know in no uncertain terms that she was running the show. As a result, her bridesmaids wore an absolutely horrendous shade of crimson with a black crocheted jacket. It was a disastrous look, especially with the clashing red roses that they carried. One of the girls was so upset with what the bride made them wear, they no longer speak. My friend also decided that they had to sing at the reception. None of the girls can sing and it was embarrassing for them and for the guests as well. When the couple registered for gifts at a local department store, the bride-to-be refused to even consider the china, glassware, or stainless that he liked. Even if she liked something that he chose, she would veto it. Not surprisingly, they are divorced now, but she told me that every time she looked at the pictures, all she could see was how terrible the wedding party looked. At the end of the marriage, she was stuck with a lot of household items and furniture that she hated. The upside is that she now wonders what she was thinking and has vowed not to be so rigid in the future. — Janet